A woman who feels jealous because her mate tends occasionally to browse into the pastures of others' affections should give a hint of warning. If her husband doesn't listen, she should not say anything further. If that wife still thinks that her husband is a worthy peg on which to hang her life she should not be jealous or demanding, but rather put on the best clothes of sweet behavuor. She should be extra nice, extra cheerful, extra forgiving, extra lenient, extra magnetic towards him. She should express the peaceful attitude brought from meditation. She should not use physical force to draw the straying attention of her mate, but raher the superior spiritual force of offering more love.
Even if that love is rejected, she should not be unladylike. It is better to kill such a man with kindnes; let him leave (if it must come to that) in kindness, ever regretting that he left, rather than force him to jump out of one's nagging, jealous presence as if from a person stricked with a moral plague. Couples who once thought that they loved each other should never mock their feeling by allowing jealousy to instigate in them a feeling of hatred. Those whose love-experiment in matrimony is unsuccessful in spite of continual, sincere effort to make it a harmonious marriage should bid farewell to each other in a kindly, gentle way, as befits the true children of God.
When jealousy in married life is incurable by gentlemanly and ladylike behavior, by the offering of more courtesy, more trust, more kindness, and more love, couples should part in friendliness and mutual understanding, saying to each other: "we tried our utmost, but as we did not succeed, let us part.
Jealousy never cures jealousy. Love is the best panacea for this malevolent, ugly, psychological trait. If jealousy's devastating effects on th lives o others are abhorrent to us, then by all means we should refrain from contaminating ourselves with this psycholgical virus.
*** the above post in an excerpt from a top class yoga guru of the 20th century.
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